🏆 Put yourself on the pedestal

What if putting yourself on a pedestal could drastically improve your life? In today’s special double episode of the Hot Genius Guide to Manifesting, we unravel the transformative power of self-worth and self-love. We begin by discussing how seeing yourself as royalty—without falling into narcissism—can help you recognize your intrinsic value and foster a sense of equality with others. Delving into profound concepts like the law of oneness and the spiritual essence behind the greeting "namaste," we uncover how honoring your worth can help you appreciate the divine light in everyone.

Next, we dismantle the societal myth that equates self-worth with self-sacrifice. Many of us are trapped in people-pleasing behaviors due to the fear of being labeled selfish or narcissistic. Reflecting on personal experiences and psychological insights, we challenge the misconception that being a good person means neglecting your own needs. Instead, we champion a balanced approach where honoring yourself is just as crucial as caring for others, ultimately leading to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Once viewed as the ugliest and stupidest, always putting others first with nothing in return, the host's life dramatically improved by deciding to put themselves on a pedestal. Enhanced mental and physical health, improved financial status, and newfound respect from others serve as powerful testimonies to the importance of self-worth. We wrap up with a heartfelt call to action, urging you to share your thoughts and spread the message. Thank you for your continued support; your journey to self-empowerment starts here!

Chapters

• 0:00 Put Yourself on a Pedestal
• 9:28 Embrace Self-Worth, Put Yourself First
• 21:40 Redefining Self-Worth and Respect
• 31:42 Share and Support for Growth

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Welcome back to another episode of the Hot Genius Guide to Manifesting. Oh, my god, I almost said the wrong name. I was going to say Manifestation, but the podcast name is Manifesting, the Hot Genius Guide to Manifesting. Okay, look, I changed the name very recently, so please forgive me if I get the name Okay.

Speaker 1: 0:18

So, as you know, guys, this week I decided to do a double episode drop. As you also know, I do that quite often when I'm feeling just really inspired. I gotta do that, and so I'm in the mood currently recording this live on Instagram as well. Um, and yeah, and, by the way, just an update on this video situation. I've just, at this point in time, just told myself I am not putting shit on YouTube because it's just doing my head in. Anyway, I'm gonna wait till I have, um, a videographer and a person can do that for me, because this stuff hurts my brain. So, for now, instagram will do okay for the video. So if you want to watch the video, go on Instagram.

Speaker 1: 0:57

So, guys, so how are you feeling with the episode prior to this? Do you remember that one that happened very soon, very, very recently? For me, it was about half an hour ago. I was a bit serious, a bit more serious than normal. You'll find that this show is a bit of a combination of. Most of the time I like to be in a light energy, but that one just felt like it needed some oomph, like I was in my serious zone, was getting really passionate, but it was an activation that I think we all need. Look, sometimes you got to be serious, all right, and so, anyway, let's get into today's episode. It's going to be so much fun.

Speaker 1: 1:31

Okay, I'm very excited for this because it's called put yourself on a pedestal. Put yourself on a pedestal, okay. And before you freak out, before you freak out on me, okay, all right. Before you go, oh, no, I don't want to be a narcissist. Oh, my God, no, christina, like what do you mean? Put myself on a pedestal? All right, hear me, relax, don't lose your shit.

Speaker 1: 1:54

If you haven't listened to the episode from like three episodes ago, you probably should listen to that, because I was explaining about seeing yourself as royalty. I believe I was explaining the differences between narcissism and not. But in case you need a refresher or you haven't listened to it, let me just ease your mind. So you don't freak out on me, okay, so you don't have to worry about being a narcissist. You don't have to worry about being a narcissist. You don't have to worry about being vain. Just remember this Someone who believes or is a narcissist in any way, or is self-absorbed or unhealthy in any way okay, or has a superiority complex, hates themselves.

Speaker 1: 2:39

They don't love themselves, okay, themselves, okay. They cope through this low sense of self-worth, through a inflated, inauthentic sense of superiority and, in addition to that, more on the narcissist side of things. A narcissist is not in love with themselves. They're in love with other people being in love with them, okay.

Speaker 1: 3:05

So when I'm saying, put yourself on the pedestal of your life, I'm trying to empower you because, if you, it's very similar to the concept of see yourself as royalty. But we you know we need another episode on this Like we need to go deeper into this, because I just don't think, guys, you understand just how important you are. Like, I just don't think you get it. I really don't. I really don't think, guys, you understand just how important you are. Like, I just don't think you get it. I really don't, I really don't, when you put yourself on a pedestal, just like I said in that episode of see yourself as royalty which, by the way, if you haven't listened to it, what are you doing, like? What are you actually doing? Um, because the irony is that when you put yourself on a pedestal, you get to actually see everyone as equal to you. You don't suffer anymore from the superiority complex or from the inferior inferiority complex, right, which they are the same thing. You know, it's like your pendulum swing, right? But when you put yourself on the pedestal, you understand your power and you understand that you are the God of your reality.

Speaker 1: 4:07

Now, this is not, you know, throwing any shade to freaking to religion. Okay, this is not about that. I respect all religions. Okay, I believe in God, all the things. I'm a spiritual girly. Okay, this is not about that. I'm just saying that from my perspective.

Speaker 1: 4:25

I personally believe that we are a part of source. People call this god, the universe, consciousness. We're a part of it. We are just experiencing, let's say, put it like this source, or the universe is experiencing itself subjectively through you and through me, and through Bob and through Amy. Right, that's what people mean when they say we are one, the law of oneness. That's what it means, right? So do you get what I mean now, like, if you put yourself on a pedestal and you honor yourself, and if we're all connected, that instantly means you're honoring everyone else, and isn't that fucking beautiful.

Speaker 1: 5:08

This is the concept of namaste as well. Namaste in indian or sanskrit means I see the light that exists within me, I recognize that in you. That's it. The light that they're referring to is the god source in you. Right, you are your higher self. You are co-creating with the higher version of you, which, by the way, the higher self is just a, I guess, person personified version of the universe. So it's like imagine the universe. So it's like imagine the universe is like the whole thing and the higher self is like your piece of the universe, like your unique soul, personality, and but it's the same frequency as source, it's like the 5d version of you.

Speaker 1: 5:58

Okay, so when I say, put yourself on the pedestal, because, if you, the reason why I say that is because, if you don't put yourself on the pedestal, because, if you, the reason why I say that is because if you don't put yourself on the pedestal, you're going to put everything else on a pedestal. Hello, you're going to put money on a pedestal. You're going to put your dream man or dream woman on a pedestal. And you do realize, when you put something on a pedestal, you make it separate to you. You do realize, when you put something on a pedestal, you make it separate to you, you make it unavailable to you. Do you see why this is important? Until you put yourself on a pedestal, you're just going to inevitably put everything else on a pedestal, which means that you will always be in a state of chasing.

Speaker 1: 6:38

And how I want you to understand this concept is literally imagine right now You're sitting on a throne, okay, and you're looking at money and money's energy and it's just flowing around, it's hanging out. Because you're now on this throne, you can see money, and money is at eye level. It gets you. Okay, let's say, as you're sitting on this throne, you also see everyone else, even if they don't sit on their own throne. You see them, and you see them like whoa, wow, everyone's so beautiful. My God, how magical Everyone's just. You know what doing their human thing, whether they're unconscious or not, whether they're toxic or not, whether they're healed or not, it doesn't matter, it is what it is. No judgment over here.

Speaker 1: 7:21

But now imagine that you see yourself as inferior. Well, you don't put yourself on this pedestal and now imagine yourself looking up. And you're looking up and all you see is like you know your dream partner, your dream man, dream woman. You see money and it's like you're jumping and you're just trying to reach for it. That's not how it works. That's not. That's not how it works.

Speaker 1: 7:43

Believe me, believe me as someone who had the superiority complex and the inferiority complex seriously, I can confidently tell you that there is no point seeing yourself as below someone or below something that you desire, because you might not know this, but people who have an inferiority complex, they also are capable, have the potential of having the superiority complex right. And then you might be thinking, okay, christina, but like people who put themselves in the pedestal, like I don't want to be like them, you know, because, like they're self-absorbed, they've got no shame, they're narcissistic, and I'm going to be like them. You know because, like they're self-absorbed, they've got no shame, they're narcissistic, and I'm going to be here all the time reminding you of the same shit. And it's like, first of all, the universe doesn't look at things like, oh, you're good and you're bad. The universe doesn't judge from the eyes of the universe, there is no good and bad. There just is okay, that's just the way it works. We can't fight it. I didn't make up the rules, don't get angry at me. I didn't make up the rules, okay.

Speaker 1: 8:51

But people who get what they want, who are very focused on themselves, have you noticed that to most people, they're not considered what the conventional means of what a good person is? Because we've been brainwashed in this society to be a good person. To be a good person, don't you dare say good things about yourself. Don't you dare ever. Because if you do that tall poppy syndrome, especially for us Australians, right, good luck, oh my God. Do that tall poppy syndrome, especially for us australians, right, good luck. Oh my god.

Speaker 1: 9:28

When I say you should see the way people react to me, by the way, with, like, how confident I speak about myself, how highly I speak of myself. You know, recently, now, when I think about it, people react pretty good. But you know, in the past, when I was like I didn't do my shadow work, right, oh my God, it triggered so many people, right, and it's no one's fault, it's just conditioning. We've just been conditioned to dim ourselves down, to associate someone who loves themselves of narcissism or to associate someone who loves themselves and honors themselves as selfish, as a bad person. And you know, no one wants to be a bad person. That's great news. Well, most of us don't anyway, right?

Speaker 1: 10:15

But you're forgetting that being a good person does not mean sacrificing yourself. You've been brainwashed if you think that I don't got to prove that I'm a good person. I just know I am Same as you. You don't need to prove it. You don't got to prove that I'm a good person. I just know I am Same as you. You don't need to prove it. You don't need to prove it to self-sacrifice. You don't need a people-pleasing, people-pleasing behavior, isn't you?

Speaker 1: 10:33

People-pleasing behavior is literally just a stress response. It's called fawn. Look it up, right. So your personality as a society, unfortunately. So your personality as a society, unfortunately. Things are changing though, don't worry.

Speaker 1: 10:48

But as a society, once again, we've literally been trained to be in that stress response, that fawn response, to think of ourselves as low, like don't shine too bright, don't outshine anyone, right? You don't want to come across fully yourself. Okay, that's a good person. How it's not. And that's why, unfortunately, you hear a lot of people oh, my God, my back hurts, let me just stretch. You hear a lot of people saying things like you know why do bad things happen to good people? Do you know why bad things happen to what you think is a good person? Because the people that you're referring to, who are a good person, are people who are sacrificing themselves, and I don't dispute that they're not a good person. I think they're an absolute good person. It comes from the best place.

Speaker 1: 11:44

But my question to you right now is excuse me, I just had a coughing fit. Do you know why? I'm gonna tell you why. I never used to believe this, but I have to tell you now because I think it's so true.

Speaker 1: 11:56

Every time I'm talking about something where in the past, it just feels a little bit too taboo, I get a little bit nervous. My throat chakra like closes up and I start choking on my words. It happens every time, every episode. Oh, like somewhere in the episode, right, like even when I can warm up my voice. Um, what happens is that if I say something that's, like you know, a bit controversial, my throat would just dry up and I would just start getting all weird anyway. So, yolo, I don't care anymore, I'm just. I used to try to like hide whenever my throat would do that. And now I'm just here to tell you. I'm here to be like extra, extra raw, and when I'm saying something controversial, my body is almost like trying to protect me and like let's change that by me sharing that with you, right?

Speaker 1: 12:43

But anyway, what I was saying is that I don't dispute that those people, when people are referring to, like why do bad things happen to good people?

Speaker 1: 12:52

I'm not disputing the fact that they're not good people. What I'm saying is that, like, what I want you to think about is that are you sure that they are? That it is called a good person if they're not being good to themselves? Like what good of a person? Why would you want anyone to just be good to you and not be good to themselves? Like that doesn't make sense, right?

Speaker 1: 13:21

We're all connected, so to some degree, what happens is that when someone is too obsessed with being a good person through the conventional means of what that looks like, of self-sacrifice and, you know, never like being overly humble like in a toxic way, then internally, as a human, they're going to feel like their own needs aren't met. They're going to feel that cost of that self-neglect and naturally the brain's going to cope somehow. And the way the brain will cope is that that person, without wanting to they, will involuntarily start resenting everyone they will. I know this as well, not just through understanding the psychology and the spiritual perspective of it. I know this because it was me. I would sacrifice myself, I would give you my, my last freaking I don't know meal if I was starving, whereas now I'll just be like, uh, do you want to split? Like do you know what I mean? It's sort of like the whole Titanic thing, like why did one person have to get off that floaty thing? It's the same thing. It's the same thing. There was enough for two people on there Same thing.

Speaker 1: 14:38

So I'm going over all these layers of, I guess, conditional and societal expectations and programmings, because the only way that you're going to put yourself on a pedestal and actually feel safe to do that is if you understand that it's not wrong for you to see that with your own logic and reasoning. Because I know that somewhere inside of you is afraid, is afraid. You know you don't ever want to be perceived as someone who's selfish. I get that. I respect that. I know that you're a good person, you have a big heart, you care about people. I'm just asking that you care about yourself just as much or a little bit more, and that it's not wrong and it doesn't make you a bad person. In fact, it makes you an amazing person, because when you are full of yourself in a healthy way guess what? You're never going to be entitled to anyone owing you anything, ever, ever. You won't have a good person ego, which is what will happen if you don't put yourself on a pedestal. It's inevitable and obviously don't take it literally. See it as a metaphor.

Speaker 1: 15:55

I'm just really just trying to tell you can you please put yourself on that throne and stop thinking that money or your dream partner or your dream body, even, or freaking Hollywood or a celebrity, can you stop saying that them is better than you, because they're not better than you. You are just, it's all equal. We're equal as souls. Our inherent self-worth is equal. No, we're not equal in skill. We're not equal in kindness. We're not equal in the marketplace. I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about equality.

Speaker 1: 16:29

That's a different subject. I'm talking about your inherent self-worth, and the only criteria for you to be on that pedestal is the fact that you exist, there should be. You don't have to earn that. You don't have to earn being important. You do not have to earn money. Yeah, you don't have to earn it. The whole point of money is to learn how to get money to work for you.

Speaker 1: 17:00

And when you're on the throne, that's what happens. You stop being afraid of it. You stop putting money on a pedestal. You see it for what it is. Why does this matter? Because then you get to be free, regardless of the amount of money you have in your bank account. You get to be free regardless of whether the man or woman of your dreams wants you. And how do you think they're going to want you? When you look up to them like they're a god or when you see yourself as worthy enough to get the best of the best. Once again, that's, that's what's hot, and and the truth of the matter, is your idea of a dream partner, okay, that person? If they really think about this, if you put them on a pedestal, don't you think that they want to be of someone who's also at that level, like, really hear that right? They don't want someone who doesn't think that they're good enough. They want someone who already is aware of their amazingness and their enoughness. They want someone who already is aware of their amazingness and their enoughness.

Speaker 1: 18:17

Put yourself on the pedestal, because you are the most important person in your life, in your reality. You're swallowing your water, you're wiping your ass, you're paying your bills no one else is doing that for you, or maybe the bills, but no one's definitely drinking your water. Maybe someone's wiping your ass, I don't know how old you are Like no kids allowed here, right? But come on, you are so important and I need you to start acting like it. I need you to put yourself on that pedestal so that you can stop putting other things on a pedestal. I want you to feel so fucking confident in yourself that if you were hanging out with a celebrity, your favorite celebrity, you would feel literally the same way as if you're hanging out with anyone else. That's power.

Speaker 1: 19:09

Every single stage of history of mankind, humans worship people or things or whatever else like a god, and at this part of human history, according to anthropology anyway, the current climate of this is that we worship celebrities like gods, whether you do it on purpose or you do it on not on purpose. It's quite unconscious, though, right, we don't mean to do it, we're just trained that way to the point where, for example, there's this thing where we look at celebrities and when you think about it, we see them on screens right most of the time, unless you live in LA, um, or you, you know, you're an Aussie and there's, like Australian celebrities. I've never seen one in real life. Anyway, my point is that what happens in your brain is that you don't see them as a human. You see them as a character. Yeah, so that's why you put them on a pedestal. That's why, as a society, we worship them as gods, because, to our brain, we don't realize that they're actually a human. They're an extraordinary human. I don't fight that. They're extraordinary. The fact that you can actually hold that level of fame, there's a reason why people are famous in the first place They've done something really brave and extraordinary. They've done something really brave and extraordinary. But I said to you before, as humans, your inherent self-worth we're all equal, but we're just not equal in skill, talent, fame. You know how healed we are, like it's irrelevant, it doesn't even fucking matter. I need you to put yourself on a pedestal and see how perfect you are. Instead of you idolizing and unconsciously worshiping people on a screen, I want you to worship yourself. Worship yourself in a healthy way, and obviously don't take that literally right. Don't get weird on me. You know what I mean. You know what I mean. You know what I mean. And it's like when you are truly able to no longer cringe at the fact that you deserve to be on a pedestal. You see it for what it is, guys. Everything will change for you, everything. I'm going to get emotional now. I'm actually going to give you an example. This is how I'm going to end this episode.

Speaker 1: 21:40

I, oh my God, I used to see myself as so low. I had a very low self-esteem. Okay, blame the childhood trauma for that. Anyway, I had a very low self-esteem in every which way or form. I thought I was the ugliest person on the planet. I, I thought that I was the most stupidest person on planet and I'm not using these extremes as a way to catastrophize, because that's what I'm thinking now. It's just that who I was. That that's literally how I thought. I had really intense OCD and anxiety, which causes a lot of extreme thinking, right, but that's how I saw myself. I thought I was the ugliest, stupidest, loserest person on earth. I truly believed that about myself, right, and my life reflected that. And people.

Speaker 1: 22:32

I would sit there. I remember sitting there, going. I don't get it Like I'm such a good person, I sacrifice myself for everyone, I'm so selfless, I care about everyone, but I don't get that back. It used to break my heart. I didn't understand what I was doing wrong. I'm like I don't get it.

Speaker 1: 22:48

Why am I always misunderstood? Why do people treat me like shit? Why do people not treat me the way I treat them? Why do people use me as a punching bag, like I don't understand it? Why, after everything? Why you know, no matter things I did to alter my appearance, why am I still not beautiful, no matter what I did? Why do I still feel stupid? Why am I I still not respected?

Speaker 1: 23:11

And I was so lost and I was suffering and it took me years to. It took me years to understand what I'm telling you in like 20 minutes. But I it didn't just take me years to understand. It takes me 20, uh, many years to like, believe in it, have the courage to apply it and and I don't want anyone to have to go through that Like there's just no point Do it now. I don't care how old you are, whether you're 18 or whether you're 80, it's never too late, never too late, never too late, it's never too late, it's never too late. And even if you're 80. It's never too late, it's never too late, it's never too late. And even if you're someone who already has a high self-esteem, that's amazing, by the way. Good on you, I'm happy for you. But hey, take it to the next level. Take it to the next level. I still take it to the next level.

Speaker 1: 24:10

But what was my point? My point was I told you, that's where I, that's who I was, that's how I was suffering, that's how my reality was reflecting to me. No one could see me. I literally felt invisible. No shit, I was acting invisible. I made myself worthless. Because I felt worthless, because I was so afraid of my power, because I didn't want to be rejected.

Speaker 1: 24:34

You say you know, in Australia, you, you say something that's self-deprecating. Everyone's obsessed with you because now you're relatable. The second that you say anything positive about yourself, people get all weird not everyone. But like, I'm saying that that is just a common, co-collective belief in Australia, right, I don't experience that anymore, even though though I'm in the same country, because, like, imagination is reality, right? Anyway, different episode. But what I'm saying is that like? That's what I went through. Now, what happened when I changed this? And well, everything changed, and the funniest thing is that me, christina, as a person, I've been the exact same the whole time. What does that tell you? That tells you that it's not something you need to earn.

Speaker 1: 25:25

I literally thought I needed to have a bachelor's degree, I needed to have X amount of money. I needed to be married with children. I needed to have x amount of money. I needed to be married with children. I needed to have a mortgage. I needed to have x, y and z before I can even consider, you know, feeling proud of myself, don't ever.

Speaker 1: 25:42

The thought of actually being on a pedestal, so to speak, wasn't even a fucking option. And then I went. You know what? You what I'm putting myself on the pedestal. I don't care anymore. I didn't approve anything. I'm the most important person in my life. I chew my food. You don't chew my food for me. I drink my water, I'm in charge and I didn't give a shit. If anyone thought I was arrogant or cocky, I didn't care, because I know I'm not. I've been in the past. The irony, you know, when I was the most arrogant version of me was when I hated myself the most, when I was putting myself on the opposite of a pedestal. Irony, because someone who's brave enough to put themselves on a pedestal on a pedestal, they know their worth so deeply that all that's going to come out of them is pure humility, love and compassion. That is it.

Speaker 1: 26:42

So what happened when I did this? I don't know where to begin, but let's make it easy. My money changed completely, completely completely. My health improved. My mental health improved. People started to treat me good again.

Speaker 1: 27:02

It got to a point where the first six months of me doing this every single time, people would treat me with respect. I would have to sit there and be like wait, what just happened? Why do they not hate me? Why do people like me? Seriously? That was going through my mind for like the first six months of me putting myself on a pedestal Because I wasn't used to it. I had 25 plus years of evidence to support the otherwise, to say that I was a piece of shit, because that's how I saw myself, that's how I showed up.

Speaker 1: 27:42

And then, all of a sudden, it happened again. My throat did the thing because it's controversial again, right, this episode is really testing me. It's okay, I'm healing through it. Okay, the only way out is through christina. So I just get weird when I say controversial shit, but we're good. We're good okay.

Speaker 1: 28:00

But like, people started treating me so well and it's only been quite recent where I'm like just letting it be, I'm just enjoying it. Now I know it's here to stay. You know, and people treat me well because when you put yourself on a pedestal, you're your real, authentic self. You're no longer a try hard. You're no longer trying to be someone that you're not. You become magnetic because you don't need anyone to like you. And when you don't need anyone to like you, people feel that they're drawn to that, they're magnetized by that and they just want to love you and give to you. People can feel when you need them to like them. Your energy speaks before you do. You can't look. You can fake everything, including an orgasm, but the one thing you can't fake, guys, is your energy. You already know this. I'm not telling you anything new, I'm just reminding you what you already know. You already know this. I'm not telling you anything new, I'm just reminding you what you already know.

Speaker 1: 29:16

So put yourself on a pedestal. You don't have to prove that you're a good person, you just are, and that a real good person is equally good to themselves and that when you put yourself on that pedestal now, everyone gets to be your equal and you see everyone at eye level, regardless of whether they are equal in the marketplace or not, because it doesn't matter, because as a soul, as a human being, our inherent self-worth we are equal. You stop worshiping things outside of you like celebrities which, by the way, they don't want you to do that either. They want to be treated like a human because they are, and people start to see you for who you really are. People start to treat you with love and respect and kindness, because everyone loves to be around someone who loves themselves, who sees themselves as important, as enough as they are how they are. And then from that place, just like myself, you're just going to attract people like that into your life. You attract people who also see themselves like that or are open to becoming more like that.

Speaker 1: 30:26

You'll be around people who now want you to win and that tall poppy syndrome will be the thing of the old world. It won't. It won't be a part of your reality now. It's not a part of my reality. It doesn't exist to me, because people can feel that it's genuine, and it's genuine because I put myself on my pedestal. And that doesn't take away anyone else's self-love or worth, because there might be 8 billion people on the planet, but it's not one planet, there's not one reality. Because there's 8 billion people on the planet, there's 8 billion realities. No one will ever experience life through your special and unique eyes ever. And that uniqueness needs to be honoured. And you honour it by making yourself the most important part of your life. Because when you can do that, when you give to other people, you give it from that place. There is zero manipulation, it's no longer giving with an expectation of anything to be given to you in return, and when you give it no longer drains you, it amplifies you.

Speaker 1: 31:42

Okay, so I hope you enjoyed today's episode. Please share this with someone who you think will benefit. Leave me a comment down below, and I can't wait to get back into this next week, unless a copper russian want to record a third fucking episode. I don't know so much. Love guys. Love you bye.